So much has been composed on western Christian relationships, that I felt a few experiences into other wedding practices may be an invigorating change. There is no official figure for the quantity of Buddhists on the planet today however gauges range from 300 to 500 million. Official tallies are unthinkable on account of China’s restraint of religion by and large. Buddhism is, by any measure, at any rate the sixth biggest religion on earth.
Buddhism views marriage as a mainstream matter. Buddhism doesn’t see marriage as a holy observance or strict obligation. Accordingly, Buddhist priests don’t solemnize the marriage or direct the service. All things considered, their job is to perform strict administrations that favor the couple.
As in many societies and religions, things start with the husband to be requesting the lady of the hour’s hand in marriage. This might be finished by the kid himself or through the guardians in an “organized” marriage. In any case, when the kid has discovered his planned, he sends a family companion to the young lady’s home. The companion conveys a jug of wine or other mixed refreshment and a white silk scarf called a khada. The companion’s motivation is to decide whether the young lady’s family has any interest in the proposition. This conventional custom is called Khachang. On the off chance that the young lady’s family is keen on the proposition, a gathering between the two families is masterminded at which they look at kikas. Kikas are to some degree like horoscopes and are utilized to decide the date of the commitment, the shade of the lady and husband to be’s ensembles and other significant dates and subtleties. Convention additionally directs that the lucky man present his lady with a blessing. It very well may be land, cash or anything of significant worth.
Next is the conventional commitment known as Nangchang. A lama or rimpoche (priest) supervises the Nangchang. Kikas are again counseled to decide the most hopeful date for the wedding. The lady and lucky man will remain together in both of their homes until the big day. Maternal uncles on the two sides assume significant jobs in progressing dealings. Visitors give endowments of rice and chicken to the lady of the hour’s mom as much obliged for raising the young lady. Meats and refreshments are given to the lady’s unmarried senior kin and to her mom.
At the point when the date for the wedding service shows up, the lady of the hour, lucky man, loved ones accumulate at the pre-selected spot where a sanctuary of the Lord Buddha has been raised. Before the altar, designed with blossoms and trimmed with candles. All participants recount the Tisarana, Ilmu Pancasila and the Vandana. The couple is then coordinated to light the candles and incense. The couple presents the promises recommended in the Sigilovdda Sutta (Digha Nikilya):
“Towards my significant other I embrace to cherish and regard her, be thoughtful and accommodating, be loyal, delegate homegrown administration, and give endowments to satisfy her.”
Lady of the hour
“Towards my better half I embrace to play out my family obligations effectively, be accommodating to my parents in law and companions of my significant other, be reliable, secure and contribute our income, release my duties affectionately and scrupulously.”
At the finish of the pledges, the guardians and additionally the gathering will discuss the Mangala Sutta and Jayamangala Gatha to offer their endowments for the couple.